Becoming Multidimensional

May 27, 2026

A work assignment sent me out of town for television production work. I was designated to work closely with a technically adept colleague. Highly professional, he well knows the mechanics of his job.

He shared with me his frustration in not receiving additional projects, admitting disappointment. What I observed, however, was a person so solely fixated on one task, that he was blind to contributing more broadly. He struggled with relating to others.

It was apparent to me what was holding him back from what he wanted.

We gravitate towards those who are well-rounded, both personally and professionally. Those who are singularly focused on one topic area, be it work, politics, social media, children, religion, music, or sports inevitably have trouble relating to others with varied interests.

If you think you may be “stuck,” then how do you become more well-rounded?

An article from Indeed provided ten suggestions.

1. Be comfortable promoting yourself. Humbly, I would add. First, identify your strengths. If you don’t know ask a trusted family member or friend what they see. Develop some stories about how your talents benefitted someone, communicating more from the perspective of what the person achieved from your assistance, rather than specifically what you may have done. Those who learn and then know of your story will be able to draw their own inferences.

2. Develop People Skills. How good are you at asking open ended questions of others? Most of us enjoy talking about ourselves. Distinguish yourself, by asking thought-provoking questions different from others they may have been asked before. Be curious and genuinely interested.

3. Evaluate yourself. Reflect upon your meetings with others. What seemed to connect? Where might you have felt “brushed off?” Did you do more of the talking or listening (aim to listen at least 60% of the time)? Did you maintain good eye contact and affirm the other person?

4. Learn continually. Read: on a variety of topics. Verify the accuracy of what you peruse if its news or non-fiction. Watch: be aware of what is occurring in your community and beyond. Listen: gain a sense of what reactions, responses, and moods are.

5. Improve communication skills. Develop a comfortable rhythm and cadence that you find comfortable and that doesn’t move “faster than your brain.” Most people, I find, need to slow down their verbal delivery. How well do you inflect, pause, or

hesitate to build interest or dramatic effect? Consider affiliating with a local toastmaster’s club; I have seen many who have benefitted significantly.

6. Explore new experiences. Travel broadens our experiences significantly. What about finding a place in a book club or Bible Study? Do you have a bucket list? Is it time to cross something off it? How will it grow and challenge your experiences?

7. Find Focus in Your Life. What is your elevator pitch, your response to the question either personally or professionally that is a reply to the question, “tell about yourself.” Is it multi-faceted involving a wide array of subjects? If you were to be another person hearing your story, would it be tantalizing? How can your story be tweaked to stimulate interest yet maintain factual accuracy?

8. Practice listening skills. We have two ears and one mouth. Are you utilizing these tools proportionately? When you are listening to someone in conversation, how well are you able to repeat back to them what they’ve just said? To what extent are you fully listening or instead preparing what it is that you wish to say next?

9. Do research. A significant part of developing good people skills is demonstrating at least some level of understanding about the interests of others.

10. Be more active. Exercise and physical activity will engage our motor neurons. Plus, you’ll look better. If you attend a gym there is also going to be a social aspect that will connect us to others. Same with walking and often running.

A coaching colleague recently shared,

“The smartest person in the room is the one who is learning from everyone else, not the one trying to show everyone else how smart they are. We learn very little by repeating our accomplishments, proving our intelligence, or reminding people how important we are. Instead, we learn when we listen, stay curious, and remain open to perspectives beyond our own. People are seldom impressed by our arrogance. They are impressed by our humility, kindness, curiosity, and genuine interest in them.”

 

The Seed Sower